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Addictions are wide and varied, and scientists now tell us we
can become addicted to certain emotions, as well as cigarettes,
alcohol, and so on.
For some, one hypnosis session is all that’s needed to overcome
20-a-day, or lose weight. All the same, for every quick fix there
is at least one relapse. Perhaps this is because there is one
crucial element that the majority of therapists miss. This aspect
is critical, and, when properly addressed, makes the difference
between short term relapse and long term lasting success and
freedom.
And here it is...
Any addictive behaviour – whether it’s cigarettes, anger, rage,
drugs, fear, violence, depression, indecision, compulsions, or
anything else – is only ever filling in for something else.
Every problem is a solution, in some way.
Only when you realise what your addiction is substituting in your
life will you have the insight and power to change it. As you think
about your life and its events, what kind of feelings were you
missing, say, from your younger days, that your addiction might be
trying to replace? Keep those thoughts in mind as I explain further
- by example.
Close your eyes and go into one of those situations when you are
actually doing the behaviour you want to stop now. Look through
your own eyes, hear through those ears, and feel the feelings that
go with that experience, now.
Now, in this state, ask yourself –
1. What BENEFICIAL feelings am I getting from this behaviour, as
I’m doing it now? (Feelings of Control/Power/Authority?
Relaxation/”Me Time”? Femininity/Manliness? Being Wanted? Feeling
Looked-After? Security? Unique-ness/Being Different?
Same-ness/Fitting In? Safety?)
2. In what areas of my life am I missing these feelings, that the
habit/addiction is filling in for?
3. In what other new - and more productive - ways could I
experience these same feelings in my life?
4. Do these better ways ‘fit’ with the rest of my life? (Keep
asking until they do...)
5. Am I willing to commit, NOW, to doing these new things instead
of the old behaviour for a trial period, of say, three weeks? (Keep
recycling & adding new ideas until you feel a full-body
YES!)
So, in a few short paragraphs you’ve learned just one aspect of my
EFT stress relief therapy which will shed light on why you do those
things you do, AND you have practical steps to implement and see
real change now. Be sure your therapist is aware of these subtle,
yet crucial details. | 
